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Are You Free From What Others Think?

English: Broken heart sewn back together
English: Broken heart sewn back together (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

People are flocking to personal development and spiritual modalities like crazy these days.  Or they might be at church, mass, or temple enjoying various religions of their choosing, or for some, not their choosing.

But the point is, we are all trying to become better people.  If you really want to test yourself and see if you’re on track with your development, consider contemplating these five points below.  Chew on them for a while before immediately rejecting them and just see what you think.  Turn them towards someone who you wish would apologize and ask yourself if this isn’t what you’d want from them.

Then see yourself doing the same for others.  If you have trouble forgiving people, then you can use this information to help you visualize how it would feel to have someone forgive you for something you’ve done.  Then, when you’re comfortable with that, you can change the visualization and see yourself forgiving someone who’s harmed you.

Try to give them the same feelings that you got from the person that forgave you.  If you’re feeling fear or stagnation in your life, or depression and sadness, these exercises will help you become free from what others think.  We often trap ourselves with what others think, their judgement and opinions and it causes us to feel unworthy, insecure, and isolated in our culture.  But you can change that now, no matter what you believe.  And if you can’t physically apologize to people, just practice in your head.  It will be effective in taking you to the next step in your journey.

  1. When you can genuinely apologize to someone without needing them to respond back to you, then you no longer care what they think.
  2. When you can admit your wrongs about yourself, without excusing yourself with blame on something or someone else, then you no longer care what others think.
  3. When you apologize to someone for the sake of peace, and not for the emotional or physical comfort people bring you, then you no longer care what others think.
  4. When you can apologize without explaining or reasoning your actions to that other person, but simply use your mistakes to better yourself next time, then you no longer care what others think.
  5. When you can truly apologize and forgive someone as an act of giving, with no expectations, than you no longer care what others think.

It would be tough being this type of person with all people and at all times, but just aiming yourself in the right direction will be enough to get you on track.  When you live your life unconditionally loving others in this way, it frees you up from what others think of you – their judgements and opinions, good or bad.  The spiritual meaning it brings is profound.  It’s up to you to find that in your own journey, but you will.  We all know the right thing to do, and we all talk about these right things to do, but it’s really tough to walk that talk, which is where we all need to ramp-up to for significant changes in our social and environmental efforts.  If we want a better world, we have to be  better people.

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Watch a Movie and Help Feed Hungry Children (organic!)

This just came up on my news feed, (FaceBook) ha ha

But seriously, this is for a good cause. And you can choose how you watch the movie, and help a child eat.

Please help get the word out by sharing this video with others!
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TEDxDirigo – Zoe Weil – The World Becomes What You Teach

English: Photo of Zoe Weil, author, humane edu...
English: Photo of Zoe Weil, author, humane educator, and co-founder and president of the Institute for Humane Education (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

What are you teaching your children?

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Earth Hour March 23, 2013

Earth Hour difference

Watch this video!

Are you gonna be ‘there’ with us on March 23rd supporting this idea and commitment to the planet?

Know of an awesome event in your area?  Let me know!

I will be looking to see who is doing this in Colorado so I can join up on any activities for “Do It In The Dark!”

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Why must we wait?

Patience teaches purity

Transformation is a sticky subject. Usually by the time we want to change something about our lives, the pain has become so unbearable that we want a miracle and are wearing holes in the knees of our pants to get it.

The internet, with its “get rich quick,” schemes, try this one diet “trick” for instant results, or do this “magic spell” to get that special someone to fall for you is de-sensitizing us away from true character development. There is an inexhaustible list on the world-wide web and everyone wants to board that express to success without understanding the work they have to do.

It’s safe to say that our problems have far exceeded our solutions, and our solutions are arrows in the dark. We solve one problem and watch three others spin out of control. You make one person happy at the cost of your own. You fix one addiction only to see it pop up somewhere else in your life. You quit one job only to find another one just like it or worse. Maybe you keep dating the same person over and over, just with a different face.

Jumping from solution to solution is a worthy pursuit to find what works for you, but if you’re not understanding the process of transformation, most likely you ditch your old efforts for new ones before anything has time to take effect. This leads to endless seeking and searching and is, quite frankly, exhausting.


Patience is hardly used in this (Western) world of convenience we now live in. But the value of patience is priceless and saved for the wise. Waiting, slowing down, becoming still, reflecting, and listening are keys to what you are searching for and not just a bunch of spiritual or religious hype.

Impatience is a wrench in your life to be avoided. Its expressed through fights, illness, addiction, road rage, emotional manipulation and control, excessive consumerism and a lot more of not getting what you really want, except a lot more frustrated. After all, like attracts like.

Patience for patience

If you would like some significant changes in your life, then you will have to get serious about it, and yes, wait. You will have to have patience to learn patience. That is living in the here and now. All these alarm bells that are going off in your life need you. As you deal with each one in its own time,  you will learn patience. You will also develop a strength of character that will prepare you for the things you want.

Patience is a step by step process, designed this way for a specific reason. We humans can only handle so much, and much of the time we conveniently distract ourselves from doing the work necessary to build our character for more exciting roles in life, like meeting a soul mate.

But patience is constantly working inside and outside of you in very small increments. When we become still, we start to notice those tiny impulses and then can recognize how they spin out of control into wild emotional binges that show up in addiction, fights, and other unsatisfactory response that leave us feeling exhausted and depressed later. Patience teaches you how to manage those impulses in ways that give you your power back, and work with your situations or other people in a way you can feel good about.

Because if you can’t manage your own emotions, how will your soul mate see you as a soul mate? If you cannot manage the money you have now, how will you be able to handle more of it? If you can’t find time to work on your passions now, how will you have time when the pressures and demands of that passion increase from exposure?

Instant fame and lottery winners can tell us fast success often leads to failure because the right character traits didn’t have time to develop. Many famous people have and are dying of drug overdoses because of the immense pressure they are under from their careers. Countless lottery winners end up broke months later because they didn’t adopt new spending habits to go along with their wealth.

While most of us will never have to deal with that kind of pressure, the message is still the same. We have to learn how to deal with the problems right in front of us. As you build character you will find that you can handle bigger dreams and the bigger demands that come with them because you developed a muscle in your character.

Not only that, but the problems that you are trying to overcome permeate various aspects of your life. A good example is a person that quits smoking sometimes suffers from weight gain. They quit the addiction, but they didn’t overcome the emotional addiction that caused them to start smoking in the first place. But by adopting the right character traits, one of them being patience, you will solve parts of those various problems you are dealing with and learn other complimentary character traits that will help you solve larger aspects of your problems in a systematic way.

Adopt the habit of patience

Slow down and live your life right now. If you make a choice to become more patient today, and actively move towards that decision, you will find a heavy burden lifted from your shoulders as you no longer struggle and fight against things you can’t control anyway.

Take your time to develop this habit right and make sure you’re using it in all parts of your life. Start with one area and start to practice it everyday, even if the practice is just conscious awareness. Visualize yourself as a patient person every night before going to sleep. Consider evaluating your beliefs and expectations that are so prevalent in this society of instantaneous results. Try a few positive affirmations every night before going to sleep. Here are a couple to get you started.


After doing these things, start looking for confirmations showing up in your life. You might hear people talking about patience, or unintentionally find yourself reading about it on the internet, or noticing parts of a book or movie stand out to you that involve something about patience. That means you are becoming consciously aware of your actions. Pursue those cues!

Do you have a positive affirmation or suggestion for developing more patience? Share your wisdom below.