Friendship is the only cement that will ever hold the world together. – Woodrow T. Wilson
To me, being friends and being single on Valentine’s Day isn’t a bad thing. I find out more about people through friendly exchanges or friendships than I ever would otherwise.
Knowing people takes time. We have quirks. We have stress. We are anxious, busy, tired, and sometimes downright depressed. That’s a lot to spring on a person in a relationship after the “honeymoon” is over, which is usually when people start to sense they aren’t with who they thought they were. This ends up becoming a pseudo-happiness not founded in friendship and love.
But with friendship, everybody gets to check each other out, see what matches up and what doesn’t, before hearts get broken. It’s slower, but it’s way kinder than the way most social expectations work and the ways they make us interact with each other, many times unethically.
And if you do your friendships right, you’ll always gain a friend into your life, even if not romantic. And after awhile, that holds so much more weight in a heart than flighty escapades with people you don’t know that well and they don’t know you that well. Those kinds of interactions that make for feeling empty inside because no one knows you at all. We all have to risk a little to be friends!
So this Valentine’s Day, and like many in my past, I make it my own and I make it about Friendship. Capitalism will make you feel like shit for being single, and for some it makes them feel like shit for being in a relationship, but it’s a lie. You’re an amazing person. Get out there and make another person feel amazing just by saying Hi with a big fat smile and recognizing them. Find one person to uplift and encourage today and you’ll know the essence of Love and Friendship (giving through your pain – giving to others what you wish you had) which is a great segue into what kind of romantic relationship you want anyway right?
And if you’re in a relationship, keep the love alive through Friendship!
Happy Valentine’s Day!
This is what it all boils down to at the end of the day, at the end of your life. Are you happy with what you have now instead of what you hope to get? This quote is from Amanda Palmer’s blog in regards to her experiences during a tour of Occupy Wallstreet and the various cities she visited. She was at lunch with a couple of her friends and this was part of the conversation she retells on her blog:
we need new ways of changing things. some parts of the old ways work, but not all. jason and i were talking about this the day over lunch with his friend, oliver. oliver’s just come back from a few years of living in morocco, and he’s been experiencing extreme culture shock getting back to the USA. the quality of life here, he maintains, is not as good as many people “think” it is. i’ll get on board with that, having traveled a lot. people in the media constantly point their fingers at “over there” and tell us to thank our lucky stars that we’re not living in certain other foreign countries. but how happy are you, really, ounce for ounce, compared to someone who lives a life with less wealth than you, but more intimacy with their loved ones, more focus on their community, their art, their health, their pace of life, their priorities? i’m not asking for an argument. i’m just asking asking for a consideration. if you’ve already made it, good. Amanda Palmer
Taken from her blog: Amanda Palmer The great part is that many of the pressures created in our culture can be relieved if we learn to let go of the things we think are keeping us happy and learn to embrace the things that truly make our soul sing. The simple things in life make us happy, and when we’re happy we fight less, play more and can learn to have fewer responsibilities by learning to need fewer things to exist, survive and fulfill ourselves. We can build our lives on quality relationships that will sustain us to the end of our days. Material wealth is nice, but it leads you further away from love, than to it. And love is the most important thing.