If you want a better society, you might have to be the first person to put your phone down, look someone in the eyes and show them you care through meaningful conversations and interactions. Strangely, you’ll be far more rewarded for doing so than if you continue to follow the crowd.
This is what it all boils down to at the end of the day, at the end of your life. Are you happy with what you have now instead of what you hope to get? This quote is from Amanda Palmer’s blog in regards to her experiences during a tour of Occupy Wallstreet and the various cities she visited. She was at lunch with a couple of her friends and this was part of the conversation she retells on her blog:
we need new ways of changing things. some parts of the old ways work, but not all. jason and i were talking about this the day over lunch with his friend, oliver. oliver’s just come back from a few years of living in morocco, and he’s been experiencing extreme culture shock getting back to the USA. the quality of life here, he maintains, is not as good as many people “think” it is. i’ll get on board with that, having traveled a lot. people in the media constantly point their fingers at “over there” and tell us to thank our lucky stars that we’re not living in certain other foreign countries. but how happy are you, really, ounce for ounce, compared to someone who lives a life with less wealth than you, but more intimacy with their loved ones, more focus on their community, their art, their health, their pace of life, their priorities? i’m not asking for an argument. i’m just asking asking for a consideration. if you’ve already made it, good. Amanda Palmer
Taken from her blog: Amanda Palmer The great part is that many of the pressures created in our culture can be relieved if we learn to let go of the things we think are keeping us happy and learn to embrace the things that truly make our soul sing. The simple things in life make us happy, and when we’re happy we fight less, play more and can learn to have fewer responsibilities by learning to need fewer things to exist, survive and fulfill ourselves. We can build our lives on quality relationships that will sustain us to the end of our days. Material wealth is nice, but it leads you further away from love, than to it. And love is the most important thing.
“When we look at nature and decide it’s beauty, we decide this based on how untouched it is by pollution. It is the same way with your soul. Strive to be a better person by being yourself and let go of the superficial perspective. Beauty is the purity of which you refine and define your soul.”
Inspiration to contemplate on your personal journey.
People are flocking to personal development and spiritual modalities like crazy these days. Or they might be at church, mass, or temple enjoying various religions of their choosing, or for some, not their choosing.
But the point is, we are all trying to become better people. If you really want to test yourself and see if you’re on track with your development, consider contemplating these five points below. Chew on them for a while before immediately rejecting them and just see what you think. Turn them towards someone who you wish would apologize and ask yourself if this isn’t what you’d want from them.
Then see yourself doing the same for others. If you have trouble forgiving people, then you can use this information to help you visualize how it would feel to have someone forgive you for something you’ve done. Then, when you’re comfortable with that, you can change the visualization and see yourself forgiving someone who’s harmed you.
Try to give them the same feelings that you got from the person that forgave you. If you’re feeling fear or stagnation in your life, or depression and sadness, these exercises will help you become free from what others think. We often trap ourselves with what others think, their judgement and opinions and it causes us to feel unworthy, insecure, and isolated in our culture. But you can change that now, no matter what you believe. And if you can’t physically apologize to people, just practice in your head. It will be effective in taking you to the next step in your journey.
When you can genuinely apologize to someone without needing them to respond back to you, then you no longer care what they think.
When you can admit your wrongs about yourself, without excusing yourself with blame on something or someone else, then you no longer care what others think.
When you apologize to someone for the sake of peace, and not for the emotional or physical comfort people bring you, then you no longer care what others think.
When you can apologize without explaining or reasoning your actions to that other person, but simply use your mistakes to better yourself next time, then you no longer care what others think.
When you can truly apologize and forgive someone as an act of giving, with no expectations, than you no longer care what others think.
It would be tough being this type of person with all people and at all times, but just aiming yourself in the right direction will be enough to get you on track. When you live your life unconditionally loving others in this way, it frees you up from what others think of you – their judgements and opinions, good or bad. The spiritual meaning it brings is profound. It’s up to you to find that in your own journey, but you will. We all know the right thing to do, and we all talk about these right things to do, but it’s really tough to walk that talk, which is where we all need to ramp-up to for significant changes in our social and environmental efforts. If we want a better world, we have to be better people.